I know it’s tough to see your body change before your eyes into one that most likely is further from the idealistic beauty image that is revered by society.
It’s not your fault to feel hate and shame towards your body. We have been bombarded with messages telling us we need to “bounce back” to our pre-baby bod.
Please know that while your body has most certainly changed during and after pregnancy, your body will continue to change. That is the beauty of life. Nothing is static and we get to appreciate life’s ebbs and flows.
As long as you are alive, you have the right to enjoy life as much as anyone else RIGHT NOW, despite how you think your body looks.
Give yourself compassion. Give yourself permission.
Don’t wait for the “perfect” number on the scale to enjoy life. Start RIGHT NOW.
You are worthy of feeling comfortable in your clothes regardless of the number size on the tag. So, give yourself permission to buy new clothes that make you feel good.
You are worthy of going on that family photoshoot RIGHT NOW to capture precious memories with your children. The days do not come back to us and they grow up so fast!
You are worthy of eating the foods you want without feeling guilty every bite of the way.
I understand this can be a HUGE challenge.
Food is supposed to bring us pleasure. Yet because of the fatphobic society we live in, eating has become so complicated. Learn to listen to your body. She tells you what you need. It takes time and practice, and maybe a little help along the way, but it is possible to savor every bite of a donut (like I just did J) and feel satisfied without wanting more… and more… and more.
You are worthy of putting on your swimsuit and ENJOYING your time at the beach or pool RIGHT NOW. When you were younger you didn’t care how you looked in your swimsuit, but as you grew older and were conditioned by society’s definition of beauty, you became hypersensitive about how you look. Give yourself permission to forget about what you look like and pay more attention to enjoying the moment you have right now, because it’s the only one you are guaranteed!
Your body is not an ornament for others to ogle after. She is an instrument to be used for your benefit.
Your body does not determine your worth. If you are alive you are WORTHY enough to ENJOY life. Life is too short. Enjoy it NOW. You are worth it Mama!
Candice Sanchez is a Mom of two, and Founder of Health Crave, a Wellness Coaching company that focuses on empowering busy, depleted Moms to put themselves back on their to-do lists so they can start enjoying life now. You can find here online at the below: